7 Essential Lessons on Success That School Won’t Teach You
School is a foundation establishment where you are asked to follow a regime, work hard, score high marks, and get ready for college. The teachers at the school are your guide who convince you that following their guidelines will help you become successful in life and secure a great future.
Well, for the most part it is true that working hard during school can help you be successful in life but that’s just the foundation part. School develops a fixed mindset within you providing limited career opportunities that you can secure only getting high grades in every class. And when you realize the truth in the outer world, you will face crushing defeat and let down.
Today, the schools are just pushing the kids to pursue a medical or engineering degree while there are many other alternatives and options out there which you may be good at as well as manage huge success at that. Schools seldom encourage the entrepreneur in you and instead push you more towards a boring risk-free and overly secured lifestyle.
But if you don’t wish to follow the crowd and want a life at your terms and choice then you’re not alone. There are many examples of countless entrepreneurs and business leaders who thought out of the box and eventually learned a lot of lessons the hard way that no schools will ever teach you.
Here are some important lessons on Success that you school can’t teach you:
1. Forget failure
The ultimate cause of cheating, copying or adapting to other means of deception is the fear of failure. From the beginning, the school warns you to avoid failure and some may stoop to terrible stages to prevent failing. The truth in fact is that the failure can teach you a lesson that no textbooks or teachers from school or college ever will. Many entrepreneur and business leaders have embraced their initial failures, learned important lessons from them and eventually curated their success path effectively. They chose to try and fail instead of fearing failure now and regret it later. Failure in fact is the 1st step towards success and there’s nobody in this world who has never failed once in life. Instead of emphasizing about the failure, try to learn from it and move on towards your goal to success.
2. Don’t be afraid to take action
If failure is the stepping stone towards success then fear is a huge roadblock. No matter how confident a person seems, everyone has fear. Fear of failure, rejection and pain are some of them. You are remembered not because of your fears but how you act on them. To accomplish any goal, the 1st step is the most vital and often the hardest. The main reason it is hard because you are afraid to take action. Once you take charge and despite the fear take the first step, you will get too busy following the goal that you would have no time to be afraid anymore. So don’t be afraid to fail instead step up face you fear and if you fail then learn from any failure you encounter in life.
3. Focus on short-term plans first
Parents and teachers have the habit of putting thoughts in you about the future from the childhood itself. They would define the career you must choose and set long term plans for you. Planning is essential in life but it is foolish to get carried away by such planning. Focus on today and take one step at a time towards your goal. Set milestones and plan accordingly instead of planning about the final destination from the beginning. Covering milestones will boost confidence and such small success with short-term plans will make you more positive towards your goal. Hence, create short-term plans and focus on them before thinking about the final destination. Life is a continuous journey and at the end you will reach somewhere. Enjoy the journey, learn from the mistakes, cherish the success and pass each milestone one by one.
“The best way to predict the future is to create it.”
4. Raise your hand and ask a question
In a batch of students there are always few who will ask questions to clear their doubts whenever they are confused or get an opportunity. They are not scared or tensed while speaking in public while some others freeze when asking a question the class. It is highly essential in the competitive world of today to speak up when you are confused or have queries about your work. At workplace too, there are workers who are ignored or under-appreciated because of their lack of ability to speak up or add inputs. If you face the trouble of speaking up in the public then get help from professionals who train in public speaking with excellent and effective strategies. To be appreciated and noticed, it is vital to raise your hand and ask a question or give your opinion.
5. Belief is stronger than you think
Self-belief can do wonders in your life. The main difference between successful people and unsuccessful people is self-belief. The most brilliant and successful people in the world have one thing in common. All of them believe in their goals and honed their passions. Thomas Edison failed 1000 times before inventing the lightbulb. If he had stopped believing in himself midway, the world would be still be in darkness. The same goes for you. Don’t wait for approval or validation from others. If you believe in your vision, your ideas then just go for it. Work hard for it with self-belief, and you will never look back in your life.
6. Patience is the key to success
A lot of teachers are really great at super responsive feedback, but that too can be a hindrance. It establishes an expectation for instant results, which isn’t conducive to success in the business world. Things happen slowly. They happen so slowly, that the main reason people give up on almost any endeavor in almost every aspect of life is because of the sluggish pace of dreams. They threw in the towel when they moved in inch in a year, when they expected a mile. To piggyback on the second point above, this, too, comes from fixating on the future. Successful people don’t focus only on the end, but also how far they’ve come. Jim Carrey and his family, for instance, were once so poor that they were living out of a van to keep food in their stomachs. If Jim didn’t have the patience and belief that one day he’d be a great comedian, we’d have never seen his genius shine.
7. See greatness in others, not just the mirror
In school we loathe working in groups, and are geared to focus only on our own performance. There might be a misconception that smart and successful business people are inherently selfish. While there may be a few examples of these in corporate offices across the nation, don’t let a few bad eggs spoil the whole carton. The most talented are also usually well liked because of their ability to help others shine brightly. They can easily recognize a hard worker, a hustler, and someone who lives life with a lot of passion. What’s more, successful people always help others look better than themselves. They don’t take all the credit, they do not steal the ideas of others, and they certainly do not back stab or step on others to get what they want. Dale Carnegie is the prime example of a successful entrepreneur who evokes and promotes camaraderie in the workplace through his bestselling novel, How to Win Friends and Influence People.
Our formal schooling taught us many beneficial things, but there’s always more to discover and sponge up in our journey to achieve greatness. With the steps listed above you will be well on your way to learning the essential things that were unfortunately skipped in school.
The closing bell may signify the end of a scheduled school day, but not the end of your learning.
Really, it’s only the beginning.